Why You Should Always Choose Your Friends Carefully

- This article is  a chapter from The Hidden Sidethat it is easier for him to grow in that way than
of Things by C W Leadbeater firstin any other. For the same reason a man who
published (1913)spends his time loafing in a public-house with the
 idle and various is exceedingly likely to end by
- Since it is emphatically true that no man canbecoming idle and vicious himself. The study of
afford to be disliked or feared by his cat or dog,the hidden side of things emphatically endorses
it is clear that the same consideration applies withthe old proverb that evil communications corrupt
still greater force to the human beings whogood manners.
surround him. It is not easy to overestimate the 
importance to a man of winning the kindly regard                   This fact of the
of those with whom he is in constant association--enormous influence of close association with a
to overrate the value to a schoolmaster of themore advanced personality is well understood in
attitude towards him of his pupils, to a merchantthe East, where it is recognised that the most
of the feeling of his clerks, to an officer of theimportant and effective part of the training of a
devotion of his men; and this entirely apart fromdisciple is that he shall live constantly in the
the obvious effects produced in the physicalpresence of his teacher and bathe in his aura. The
world. If a man holding any such position as onevarious vehicles of the teacher are all vibrating
of these is able to arouse the enthusiasticwith a steady and powerful swing at rates both
affection of his subordinates, he becomes thehigher and more regular than any which the pupil
focus upon which many streams of such forcescan yet maintain, though he may sometimes
are constantly converging. Not only does thisreach them for a few moments; but the constant
greatly uplift and strengthen him, but it alsopressure of the stronger thought-waves of the
enables him, if he understands something of theteacher gradually raises those of the pupil into the
working of occult laws, to be of far greater usesame key. A person who has as yet but little
to those who feel the affection, and to do muchmusical ear finds it difficult to sing correct intervals
more with them than would otherwise bealone, but if he joins with another stronger voice
possible..         To obtain this result it is notwhich is already perfectly trained, his task
in the least necessary that they should agree withbecomes easier-- which may serve as a kind of
him in opinion; with the particular effect with whichrough analogy.
we are at present concerned their mental attitude 
has no connection whatever; it is a matter of                   The great point is
strong, kindly feeling. If the feeling shouldthat the dominant note of the teacher is always
unfortunately be of an opposite kind-- if the mansounding, so that its action is affecting the pupil
is feared or despised-- currents of antipathy arenight and day without need of any special thought
perpetually flowing towards him, which causeon the part of either of them. Growth and change
weakness and discord in the vibrations of hismust of course be ceaselessly taking place in the
higher vehicles, and also cut him off from thevehicles of the pupil, as in those of all other men;
possibility of doing satisfactory and fruitful workbut the powerful undulations emanating from the
with those under his charge.teacher render it easy for this growth to take
                 place in the right direction, and exceedingly difficult
 for it to go any other way, somewhat as the
It is not only the force of the feeling sent out bysplints which surround a broken limb ensure that
the person; like attracts like in the astral world asits growth shall be only in the right line, so as to
well as the physical. There are always masses ofavoid distortion.
vague thought floating about in the atmosphere,                  
some of them good and some evil, but all alike No ordinary man, acting automatically and
ready to reinforce any decided thought of theirwithout intention, will be able to exercise even a
own type. Also there are nature-spirits of lowhundredth part of the carefully-directed influence
order, which enjoy the coarse vibrations of angerof a spiritual teacher; but numbers may to some
and hatred, and are therefore very willing toextent compensate for lack of individual power,
throw themselves into any current of suchso that the ceaseless though unnoticed pressure
nature. By doing so they intensify the undulations,exercised upon us by the opinions and feelings of
and add fresh life to them. All this tends toour associates leads us frequently to absorb
strengthen the effect produced by thewithout knowing it many of their prejudices. It is
converging streams of unfavourable thought anddistinctly undesirable that a man should remain
feeling.always among one set of people and hear only
 one set of views. It is eminently necessary that
                  It has been said thathe should know something of other sets, for only
a man is known by the company he keeps. It isin that way can he learn to see good in all; only
also to a large extent true that he is made by it,thoroughly understanding both sides of any case
for those with whom he constantly associatescan he form an opinion that has any right to be
are all the while unconsciously influencing him andcalled a real judgment. The prejudiced person is
bringing him by degrees more and more intoalways and necessarily an ignorant person; and
harmony with such undulations as they radiate. Hethe only way in which his ignorance can be
who is much in the presence of a large-mindeddispelled is by getting outside his own narrow little
and unworldly man has a fine opportunity ofcircle, and learning to look at things for himself and
himself becoming large-minded and unworldly, forsee what they really are-- not what those who
a steady though imperceptible pressure in thatknow nothing about them suppose them to be.
direction is perpetually being exerted upon him, so