| It's a fact of life... everyone gets angry | | | | detached and isolated, causing anxiety, stress etc. |
| sometimes. Anger is such a common emotion | | | | You can see which way the cycle is heading. |
| that all you have to do to see an example is walk | | | | These are not the only signs of negative anger. |
| along any high street or town centre and you'll | | | | Another is insisting to other people that they don't |
| witness people losing their tempers in many | | | | make fun of you in any way. This trait is also |
| different situations - road rage, parental anger, | | | | expanded into placing exacting demands and |
| strangers in a queue, at a store checkout, the list | | | | stipulations on the behaviour of those around you. |
| goes on. This observation demonstrates that we | | | | This type of personality will lead people to see |
| must accept anger as being a natural element of | | | | you as overbearing and insufferable. Someone |
| our human mindset. Anger can be manifested in | | | | with a negative anger mindset will typically expect |
| numerous ways and have countless effects and | | | | complete submission to their will, yet will not look |
| outcomes. | | | | upon their own conduct as unnecessary or |
| Anger can be divided into two main types - | | | | unusual. |
| positive and negative. Positive anger can, perhaps | | | | Although violence as a physical manifestation of |
| surprisingly, be an excellent motivator and propel | | | | anger is typical it is not exclusive. Deviousness, |
| you to great achievement. It can impel you to | | | | deceit, vengeance, manipulation of others, can all |
| stand up for your beliefs, and for others who you | | | | be seen in those with a negative anger mindset. If |
| feel need supporting. Anger initiated the American | | | | you are worried this might be you then look out |
| civil rights movement. It brought about the | | | | for the additional symptoms of your heartbeat |
| emancipation of women. And who will forget the | | | | being raised at times of stress along with a feeling |
| scenes in Berlin when their infamous wall was torn | | | | of tension in your neck and shoulders. |
| down, again fuelled by anger. | | | | So if this is you, and you want to get rid of your |
| Over 300 years ago Sir Isaac Newton proclaimed | | | | problem, what do you do? First and foremost you |
| 'for every action there is an equal and opposite | | | | must be honest with yourself in admitting you |
| reaction', and although he was referring to motion | | | | need to change. Don't be an ostrich and stick your |
| we can apply the same law to emotion by | | | | head in the sand because things will only get |
| recognising the 'Dark Side' of our mindset. In | | | | worse. Negative anger is fueled by your |
| short, we need to distinguish between positive | | | | philosophy and mindset towards the world and life |
| and negative anger. I have given examples of | | | | in general and if you seriously want to be rid of |
| positive anger above, and now we will look at its | | | | the red mist you must change how you look at |
| antithesis. Negative anger is characterised by fury | | | | things. Merely trying to convince yourself to be |
| and/or hatred in response to even the most | | | | less angry is not enough |
| innocuous irritation. Reacting to annoying events in | | | | Next most important issue for you to address is |
| this manner will make leading a normal life virtually | | | | the need to reform your philosophies and mindset |
| impossible. Forming new relationships will be | | | | so you can embrace the world around you, and |
| extremely difficult. Existing relationships will be | | | | not focus purely on yourself. You need to |
| strained to the limit. The vast majority of prison | | | | determine the kind of person that you really |
| inmates incarcerated for violent acts are there | | | | would like to be. Contented, prosperous and |
| because they do not have the ability to control | | | | emotionally sound people are generally |
| their emotions when faced with a stressful | | | | broad-minded and tolerant of others and have the |
| moment. | | | | ability to see that flexibility towards this complex |
| Negative anger will affect not only your mindset | | | | and varied world is essential if they are to |
| but your physical wellbeing as well. You may | | | | progress as individuals. They appreciate that life |
| develop depression, leading to anxiety and stress. | | | | can be difficult and troublesome at times |
| You will most probably feel self-conscious when | | | | regardless of their efforts to the contrary. They |
| socialising. Negative anger is usually vented at | | | | approach life in a way that is lucid and |
| other people more often than inanimate objects, | | | | introspective, rather than brooding or becoming |
| and because of this you may deliberately exclude | | | | sullen. Recognising that you have a problem with |
| yourself from any situation where you think you | | | | anger is straightforward, doing something about it |
| could spontaneously ignite. Dealing with the | | | | involves determination and strength of mind. |
| problem in this way will lead to you feeling | | | | |