How To Gain Control Of Your Life

"The latter part of a wise man's life," saidThis program created failure and frustration in my
Jonathan Swift, "is taken up in curing the follies,adulthood.
prejudices, and false opinions he had contracted inAs an adult, I noticed that this program to negate
the former."effort made my life very difficult.
The awareness to see one's own follies,But by practicing sufficient awareness to notice
prejudices, and false opinions is in fact essential tothe pattern and choosing to learn to persist in
overcome one's psychocultural programming.every endeavor, I noticed a critical shift in my life
But before we discuss awareness, we should lookexperience.
at how we went about assimilating programs thatWhat I noticed was that when I applied my new
didn't benefit our evolution.decision to persist when things were not going
Apart from what we have been told about themy way that even seemingly impossible things
nature of reality, we also actively programmedwould turn in my favor.
ourselves on what things meant.A program, then, is a repeated pattern arising
Unfortunately, most of our programming wasfrom a previous decision. It is usually one made as
done when we were children. At that time, we didfar back as childhood. It is an early and immature
not have sufficient knowledge or experience todecision that creates disharmony and dysfunction
sift through the absurd to uncover the profound.in one's present life.
While many of the belief-systems we adopted asCultivating awareness breaks the cycle of living
children were designed to help us survive, theyout decisions made in childhood.
may have had a deleterious effect on us asAwareness is noticing a recurring life situation that
adults. Since these programs for the most partdisturbs happiness and success. It is inquiring into
arise from the unconscious, we may often findthe original decision that set the life-denying
ourselves responding childishly to challengingpattern into motion. Once a person sees the
events rather than summoning our adult power toprogram that has been silently and almost invisibly
move through the problem.running their life, they can redecide how to live
As a child, for example, I adopted the belief thattheir life and organize their experiences in a more
if something did not work out for me, my bestmeaningful way.
option was to move on to something else.