Dream Groups by Telephone May Be Better Than Meeting In Person

We human beings are visually dominant creatures.pure and powerful first impression--listening to
We draw many conclusions based on visual cuessomeone play--was in fact hopelessly corrupted.
alone. Our eyes tell a very different story about'Some people look like they sound better than
the world around us than the story that is told bythey actually sound, because they look confident
our ears.and have good posture,' one musician, a veteran
"Over the past few decades," writes Malcolmof many auditions, says. 'Oher people look awful
Gladwell, "the classical music world has undergonewhen they play but sound great.... there is always
a revolution... [To avoid favoritism in hiring] screensthis dissonance between what you see and hear'."
were erected between the committee and theThis dissonance is especially strong in everyday
auditioner... In the past thirty years, since screenslife when nonprofessionals are forming impressions
became commonplace, the number of women inand opinions on an ongoing basis. When we
the top U.S. orchestras has increased fivefold."eliminate information like who is the best dressed
(Blink, 2005).today, or who has gestures that remind you of
Now these are professional musicians who makean ex-boyfriend, or who resembles your first
their living by the quality of sound. Their personalgrade teacher--the group's attention remains on
status will improve as the quality of the orchestrathe dream images and meanings and what they
does, and they recognize musical competence likehave to teach everyone in the group. Group trust
no amateur could hope to. Yet, when they aregrows and deep friendships are formed on the
seeking the very best talent available, the visualbasis of the quality of what is shared,
prejudice of gender bias alone so distorted theircompetence in helping and demonstrated
judgements that just adding a screen duringcompassion.
auditions led to a 500% change in genderMost of our prejudices are visually based. You
composition! Now add the visual cues of socialcan't hear skin color at all. Height and gender and
class, race, mood, attractiveness and more. Inphysical appearance make no difference in an
telephone dream groups, the invisibility of meetingemail group or in a telephone dream group--both
by telephone is the "audition screen" thatof which have proven highly effective. The safety
eliminates visual prejudice. And it orchestrates aof working from one's home and the freedom
more secure, less biased discussion.from being judged on superficial traits often allow
"TeleDream" is a telephone dream group that wasgreater intimacy and an emphasis on deeper
founded in the year 2,000 with the intent ofvalues. It is said that man (or Ego) looks on the
bringing advanced dream work groups toexterior, but God (or the Higher Self and its
individuals needing resources for interpreting theirdreams) look upon the heart.
dreams. We assumed that in a telephone group,Gladwell quotes Julie Landsman, who plays the
we would have to sacrifice the degree of supportlead French horn for the Metropolitan Opera in
and intimacy that arises in a face-to-face dreamNew York: "Ive been in auditions without screens,
group, but we were quite mistaken. A telephoneand I can assure you that I was prejudiced. I
group tends to be more focused on the specificbegan to listen with my eyes, and there is no
content of the dreams and on the emotional toneway that your eyes don't affect your judgment.
of the members, and seems to be less biasedThe only true way to listen is with your ears and
and more growth-focused than when people areyour heart."
in the same room.This perfectly describes the non-visual benefits of
Groups that meet "in-person" do develop trusttelephone groups for working with dreams. We
and intimacy that may partially be enhanced byinitially thought dream work by telephone (and
personal contact, by physical touch or by visualemail) would be of great value in spite of the lack
feedback--but they also suffer from biases ofof face to face contact, but in fact dream work
many sorts. Dream groups have the profound,has been enriched by the elimination of visual
inner wisdom of dreams to guide the agenda andprejudices and the inevitable biases of face to
set a tone of radical honesty. Dream work, itself,face contact. If professional musicians can't
focuses the discussion on matters of genuineeliminate massive prejudice when the status of
psychological and spiritual importance; so much sotheir career is on the line, we should not assume
that direct contact seems not to improvethe average dreamer can do a better job: face to
matters!face dream groups are good, telephone and email
"What the classical music world realized," Gladwelldream groups may even be better.
explains, "was that what they had thought was a