| a rel="nofollow" | | | | boon and a bane. There is also a different positive |
| onclick="javascript:_gaq.push(['_trackPageview', ' | | | | side to arranged marriages. As there are parents |
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| matrimony">arranged matrimony, it is considered | | | | their life and take the consent of their children |
| as a sign of disrespect towards the family. | | | | when they decide their marriage. Arrange |
| Now the question is whether an arranged | | | | marriages are successful only when the parents |
| marriage is a boon or bane? Different people have | | | | don’t force their children to marry whom |
| different opinions for it. As per statistics, the | | | | they don't want to marry. In a marriage there |
| divorce rate for arranged marriages in these | | | | should be mutual consent and understanding from |
| countries is much lower than those in the United | | | | both sides than only a marriage can sustain. A |
| States, where marriages out of love rule. | | | | successful arranges marriage happens when the |
| Whereas love marriages are always considered as | | | | parents support and help their children to find their |
| a safer option as the girl and the boy know each | | | | respective spouses as per their desires and likings. |
| other beforehand. | | | | One cannot deny the fact that arranged |
| The concept of arranged marriages is a very | | | | marriages have some ill effects on the society like |
| popular norm in India. It is how most of the | | | | it is partial to a particular religion, caste and a race. |
| Indians get married. Despite the fact that many | | | | It is somehow not healthy when parents take |
| Indians are quite modern and western in their | | | | over their children's wishes and desires in choosing |
| approach, arranged marriages are still preferred in | | | | their life partner. It is definitely wonderful when |
| most of the Indian families. The concept of | | | | children are given the right to take a decision |
| arranged marriages may sound unreasonable to | | | | themselves on their marriage and also there |
| the Western world but for Indians it is something | | | | should be property arrangements for the first |
| they prefer. The system has originated from child | | | | time, it would be husband and wife to meet and |
| marriage, which has been a custom in India since | | | | to understand each other. This is also called a |
| ages. The system mainly came into existence to | | | | period of courtship when both of them decide to |
| promote caste system or racism. Arranged | | | | date and decide to get married. |
| marriage has its pros and cons. On the one hand, | | | | More than a love marriage or an arranged |
| it is considered as a medium to promote racism | | | | marriage, what is more important is the fact that |
| and class system and on the other, it gives | | | | a relationship cannot grow if there is no mutual |
| parents control over family matters and issues. | | | | consent and understanding from both the parties. |
| Another major drawback is that the boy and the | | | | Be it a love or arranged marriage, people look for |
| girl don’t get to know their future spouses | | | | the perfect life partner. But nobody is perfect on |
| before marriage. In arrange marriages, knowing | | | | this earth. If we understand the other person |
| your life partner is not given as much significance | | | | thoroughly, the way he or she is than only we |
| as much as parent’s approval. Two unknown | | | | can leave a happily married life irrespective of |
| people tie the knot without knowing, meeting and | | | | love or arrange because the real success of |
| understanding each other. Just as every coin has | | | | marriage lies in love, respect, concern, empathy, |
| two sides so do arrange marriages, it is both a | | | | loyalty and more important for each other. |